bonanacrom wrote:Y.T. I cant see you blending into any sized crowed.
hard to believe, I know, but I'm actually pretty good at blending when I need to. city living will do that, as will moving a whole lot. being able to recognize patterns quickly helps too. knowing how to manipulate my appearance is a plus.
I've had to become more socially adaptive than probably most people. I can "pass" at a dirt bar or an ivy league dinner. I once had to spend an entire weekend with ultra-conservative, right-wing, upper class, mostly middle age republicans and they had no idea I was some artsy low income freak with totally opposing views and a lifestyle they'd probably find appalling. I just got the "my, she was charming" comments.
I can't do it as well when I'm "off" due to fatigue or stress or illness, but you can pretty much drop me anywhere and I'll be able to talk to people and not come across as an outsider or an undesirable. The exception, of course, is when I'm physically too different. Then I try to determine if it's best to be gracious and appear non-threatening or non-offensive, to work the novelty angle so people feel an interest in your well-being, or to try to set a "don't think about fucking with me" impression.
It helps if I have some advance notice, it's harder when I'm coming from a totally opposite environment and have to try physically blend on the fly.